“The public have an instatiable curiosity to know everything,except what is worth knowing”-Oscar Wilde.
That said tech-citizenry seem to have been bitten with a pandemic curiosity bug-looking_into_your_screen_while_you_dont_notice.If you are someone in front of the computer,regardless of where you are,you will be accompanied by a rummy sidekick-the shoulder surfer.Shoulder-surfers loves to skim through your screen and get tid-bits on your modus operandi of workflow and gain insights and stats on whats going on in your workspace.Why this info seems so vital is still non sequitur.Maybe they could re_playwrite ‘waiting for godot’ with their incomprehensible wonder on what are you doing performed in their theatre of the absurd?or mebbe they could get a wiff of your password..sly fellas .
Its absurd how our dependance on techonology has instilled in us archetype insanity and ocd that has no significance in reality,yet we are still party to such eerie behavioural traits leading to identity thefts and what not.Can social engineering change the imploring morbid curious human nature?that wants to know more about insignificant details to underpin mundannes of routine?hasnt technology pushed our vulnarabilities to a newer demented levels where we part a fraction of our time gathering unwanted information..?
I have never had pets before,coz there were not many options.I never wanted sharp-toothed,noisy pets coz I love my calm and quite.Dogs though faithful and dearly attached,gnaw furniture plus you have to train them etc etc..cats cute and high maintainance.I have always loved animals and birds but mostly prefered them at zoos coz of this main reason.I wanted something cute and cuddly and low maintainance and silent.I cant help but hopelessly adore guinea pigs.I did my bit of research before wanting to have pets.After thinking about hamsters,sheeps,squirrels,fishes,doves,ducks;I settled for guinea pigs.I prefer herbivores,coz i’m a dedicated veggie.
They are so damn cute.They take their own sweet time to trust you and then they are so affectionate.The weeking noise they make is never noisy enough to disturb you.They do that only when they need food.Basicly they make different kind of sounds only with a purpose.They love pigging on food,thats probably the reason these rodents are called pigs.They love eating all day,its their idea of fun and adorable activity.They donot know how to play with various toys.They will either stare at them or get scared and run away.They love to run and stroll and lick almost anything and everything they come across.Curious pets,a sudden big noise can startle them.I had to give them some blankets to burrow in during the time of diwali.They love burrowing.If they see some fabric or garment or even carpet,furniture, they will always go under it and hide.They enjoy doing it,its like their little type of zen meditation.
Chumbi Dumbi and family
I’m so attached to them,they will never pee or poop on you.If they need to attend this duty,they will shake their butts or show some kind of restlessness.I leave them for a little while to do their business and then again pick them.They watch movies,read books with me quietly with avid curiosity.They look cutest when they yawn.They are very sensitive to your feelings.Like dogs they too are fine-tuned to your moods and emotions.If they see me doing some work,they week only once or twice and then sit quietly till they are served their food.
They have the most obedient children.I have seen my piggies little ones blindly follow whatever their adults do and eat and they do it so religiously,it makes you laugh.Any new fruit,edible must be first tested by the adult guinea pig before the little ones attempt to eat it.They always wait for their elder clan to inagurate the item before they can use.These lovely species,though they are foodies,they are never careless eaters.They know whats good for them and they eat only that.If you offer something else,they will only sniff it and go away and not even touch or go near that item as long as it lays there.Such careful,health conscious piggies they are.Theres so much to learn from them.The most well-behaved cultured pet species i have ever come across.I know i will have them for a lifetime.They are no trouble at all.They will never bit you,even if they do it,its only because they are scared,blisfully unaware of aggression towards us.Sweet tempered,lovey-dovey,authentic cuteness.
My piggies Kidos
Because they have very tiny hands and super cute fingers,they cannot get violent with hands,they fight trying to hit each others mouth if the other piggie does something to piss him/her off like wake them up from sleep or accidently scratch or stamp them.Even when they fight,which is very very rare and lasts only for a couple of seconds;You just have to put a towel on fighting piggies,its enough to confuse them and silence them.They usually dont do it in front of human beings also they feel shy to drink water in front of anyone.They do it stealthly when no one is looking or in the night when its dark.I dont know why but its weird and a funny trait they have.
They do enjoy good music,esp when they get used to it,they can listen for hours without feeling scared or uncomfortable by increase in volume or change of tunes.You can easily figure out the female guinea pig just by her behaviour.Initially I thought they were both males.But only one of them started chasing the other.However the female piggie that I have has a very feminie body language,they way she sits or shows genuine interest and observes me when i’m doing house chores or watching tele.The male piggie i have is indifferent to all these things,will never bother to watch tele to take interest in the surroundings.Most of his interests are directed only towards food and female species.This is so typical,didnt expect it in guinea pigs too.Looks like all male genders are alike in all species.
They are neatness freaks of sorts.They will clean their mouth and keep cleaning themselves esp after they’re done eating or scratching or any activity.They will never share food.They are like Joey tribiani when it comes to food.The funniest part is their jumping time.When they are happy they jump on all their 4 feet ,it looks like they are having seizure but they are actually happy.They roll their heads,jump and run keep making continuous chatty noise like they are talking.When the male wants to attract his female,he rumble struts, i.e,he literally dances around her to get her attention.
They are neither smelly,nor messy or noisey.Occassionally I give them baths which they seem to enjoy and cooperate without trying to run or jump.They do get jealous when they see me petting the other one,they start grinding their teeth,you can hear it,its amusing.They make such ideal pets even if you are busy whole day.I leave them in lot of grass and some carrots and cucumber they can keep eating whole day.Its cheap,low maintainance.If you talk to them they will look at your face and pay attention to what you are saying as if trying to figure out.I can go on and all.They are so well-behaved,you dont have to train them for anything.I decided to call them Chumbi and Dumbi and their little ones itti,bitti,titti committee.Naming pets is something i didnt like doing coz i keep calling them with various names.’Tinglie’ is esp a common variety of name that i call all small creatures.They are sensitive and you have to take good care of them.All you have to do is handle them sweetly and gently and they will give you lots of love and attention.I never liked anything cute and sweet before but these sweetpeas are my exceptions,their cuteness and innocence is 100% genuine and heartfelt.They my special darlings and always will be.
Here’s my first video of my Chumbi and Dumbi that I shot for youtube, when i bought them home,enjoy!
42 is not the answer to the meaning of life,humorously sufficed in hitchiker’s guide to galaxy.A constant good mood and pleasant spirit builds a good life and that happens when humour becomes a regular part of life.They say FB is addictive and dramatic but I have always found the online social space quite useful.Not only to form new like-minded relations but also add humour and inspiration to my life on a day to day basis.Those mirthful pages and those inspirational posts in them,so effortless and adding value to my life.Dont have to commute or pay a single penny to draw life’s inspirations from these various posts.Sharing what I like and made me laugh with the rest of them has become a part of my routine virtual reality.I’d say you dont have to wait for the scheduled comedy central on the tele,or wait for a person to make you laugh or smile.You can find it all at any time,at your disposal.Regardless of how many people keep pushing your buttons on a day-to-day basis,humorous and inspirational posts just do the righteous work of bouncing your spirits back and give you that instant good life!
Also it is magical when you consciously decide to let go certain people who create unnecessary drama and negativity in your life and are only waiting to bring out the worst in you;you instantly feel so positive and energitic.Also telling someone point blank,esp who has been causing unrest detriment to your personal and spiritual progress and well being is like cleasing aura instantly.The enthu created in a jiffy only works towards strengthening your moxie! and that is the true spirit of life!Not always an easy decision,but you gotta do what you gotta do!!
Personal diaries take a lot of punching and bad handwriting.Usually containing psychotic hatred,unrequited love and original and ugly graffitti and of course my favourite-some shocking stuff .They stand the test of times putting up with our baggage.Why are they secrective when one can assume what it might contain.Sometimes we end up treating people we love like our personal diaries,updating them our feelings and throwing our mindless tattle.Why is there a chance of some crapiness attacted to personal stuff?where are the higher ideals in this space?Is zen only meant to decorate your garden?Its bizzare how much drama is created in our personal space that you end up taking refuge in a diary only to let it out!ironic!its like taking the help of an immovable non-living thing to crib about living things!
And few people decorate their diaries and write very neatly write about the stretchers of the tedium like they are celebrating discontent.They will decorate it with ribbions,use colourful pens and lock-diaries as if anybody is even remotely interested unless of course you are some celebrity.When their diaries contain full of crap it might be used as a movie script.Whether you are a common man or a celebrity filling this space spilling your beans,you end up toasting to it.Do we really need this drama to make things work in our lives?Or do we write it in the hope of being rescued from our own created misery?I’m hoping few people also write about their dreams and what they want to be apart from the regular wimble.Or maybe its just a healthy exercise for people who cant speak their minds and dont want to bottle-up their feeling either!Oh but now they have fb and twitter,you just have to make all your thoughts known to the world!Poor little diary has finally found some respite!
This is an instance of a true story of my unavoidable encounter with this person,esp when they live in the vicinity and get invited for almost every occassion.An early 20′s something fille,when people embrace their new found so called maturity after a difficult teenage.Teenage is difficult,inexplicable phase for all and sundry.But few people change for better and a few like this bimbo find solace in antagonising people with their superficiality.Apart from philandering with sons of rich men,she’s done nothing worthwhile yet,when people while graduating are taking up entrepreneurship,jobs and making their lives meaningful.Spends almost all her time Masking herself with some cosmetic condiment and stalks me on facebook through common friends and brings up my posts in discussions and expresses it like it is her own idea.Such predators must always be kept at bay.Coz in reality they donot have a brain of their own and have only succeded so far copying other’s original attitude and ideas.
On the day of Satyanarayan Pooja at home,we had no choice but invite her family too.But she couldnt just plain attend the auspicious event and leave.she had to discuss my posts as if they were her original concepts and teach a couple of old aunties on how to apply moisturizer,etc.I’m done dealing with assholes and stupid people who dont know when to keep their mouth shut.I mean lot of people who are housewives have a lot of work at home,though they are not going out and taking jobs doesnt mean they dont have any work and can spend time in front of the mirror.Pointing out in front of everybody how rough some auntie’s feet is,so malicious and dumbass.Nobody even asked her.She’s so stupid,even if people are mocking her emptiness,it wont mend her brain.Whispering in ears and laughing in front of everybody,really amazing traits to her hokey grace she tries so hard to display and copied stuff she talks to sound intelligent.She just sits at home,not that its any of my business but when I have to ignore their disgusting malicious behaviour just to keep the smoothness of auspicious event running,its quite a challenge to be patient in such situations.I dont argue with stupid people anyway.They will fall flat on their face when they have no choice but be aquainted with reality.But coming to a religious event with the intention to show off their sophist nicessness in the veil of shallow intentions is just too much.Few oversmart people make a propaganda of what nice people they are with murky hidden intentions.And it pretty much runs in her family.Her momma and bro and herself are peas of the same murky pod!Being overtly sweet and apologetic and at the sight of an opportuinity subtly insulting people with a veil of hokey concern.Our society is bemired with such people.
The traits of a bimbo,obeserved so far..
1.Spends abnormal amount of time in beautification when not doing anything worthwhile in life.
2.Behaves like the girles of the slutcave-Paris Hilton,Lindsy Lohan,Britney Spears.People like Meryl Streep and Zeenat Amaan and many like them have brought respect to this polemic field.Its about how you think and carry ourself and the kind of real person you are that makes a difference regardless of your field of work.You could be a Supermodel and have a beautiful heart.You could be a scientist and have a mean mind.Profession has nothing to do with the kind of person you are.The real you is something people will eventually see through.
3.Such bimbos are so besotted by their skin-deep desires that emotions,love,care mean nothing to them.They can’t think beyond bodily requisites.But it becomes tricky when they imitate intelligence to sound intelligent.They imitate generosity with the intention of attaining popularity.Every good trait that they can find out in a good person,they will ‘imitate’ it.Such is the depth of their shallowness.
4.Has no real ambitions or passions in life.You’ll find such wannabes in Roadies show on Mtv.Not to forget, they like Roadies.Very corny in their compliments.Just like you see those fille in tele-shows.
5.They are like the advanced version of Bhenjis.
All and all even people who are down-to-earth and fully self-aware and know what they want and are working towards their dreams have to deal with such bimbos and varied category of such loony-tunes as they are widespread and their malice is not easily evident!Be it office or just about anywhere.They are usually a by-product of a malicious,manipulative mother who will instill in them false values.Like the one’s you see in that tacky soap-opera-Saath Nibhana Saathiya.If one’s momma behaves like a vamp in serials,their children too will not have the opportuinity to have real values and they will despise others for their genunity.
People in india are such literary geniuses that they dont even spare the currency notes from their authorship.From crazy poems to shopping list items,names of lovers with heart shapes in blue ink;you find it all on the currency notes.Dont we have any respect for money?Not only is it wrong to do that RBI cannot use such notes for official transcations and thousands of crores of rupees are thus wasted.We educate people about family planning,career councelling.We should have a digital notice board of sorts in every city and town which can spread such awareness so that people can read such important stuff while commuting.if you want an outlet in writing theres this massive thing on internet called-blogging!and available in all languages.Since people can write,they most certainly can blog as well.They’d rather convert their passion for writing a rather fruitful activity and show respect towards currency notes.have handy organizer for shopping,grocery list etc instead of wasting it on folding money.
When two fashionistas decide to have a vale of time amidst the tropical murmurs and boastfull options,summers and beaches seemed like an instinctive concordance.Goa seemed a little shopworn.Baga beach and banana rides in hot,scorching time of the year would wear-out our tan and pleasure.Coorg seem good amidst greenery and all but we wanted to have fun at the beach,the one which wasnt repeated too often atleast in our travelouges.Kerela backwaters along with ayurvedic rejuvenation seemed to hit the bullseye.Both of us are deeply meditative and love the greens and always add a tinge of spirituality in all our vacations.Destination was set and we did have a brief about things we would do in a weeks time.Amongst coconut,palm trees and Malabar coast with water sports,oil massages and herbal baths,we sure were gonna were-out our year-long crib of stress and stuff.We decided on a roadtrip instead.Started from Hyderabad ar around 4.00am in the morning all fresh and pumped up with Lakme Sunscreen lotion,shea butter lip balm,exotic summer colours nail enamel,lipgloss,beauty accessories,essential oil and colourful clothes.We love lenin,alright.Also organic fabric in cobalt blue,sea green,white and bright yellow and saffron red colours.Right from flip-flops,to floater sandals nothing that would remind us of a ballroom or work-clothing.Beaded neck-pieces,body wash and great country and blues music.We love louis Amstrong,bob Marley,buddha bar and Zen music anytime!and ofcoure Kyra likes bollywood numbers so we did have a mix of hindi,telugu,tamil and some regional folk numbers.Eating light with fruits and sandwiches and loads of fresh and aloe water we embarked our much awaited journey.
Singing,gossiping,reading Harpers Bazar and the ilk apart from ‘The Secret’ which is our bible we reach a dhaba on a highway around 10.30pm.Munching on the authentic punjabi butter-paneer and rotis with a whole glass of rose Lassi we were all ready to do the hop back and drive to our very exciting destination.Inspite of finding cute guys on the way,we made a pact of no carpooling or hitchhicker to our very generous nature and did maintained it so with full committment.
Took two good days to reach where we had to by stopping for food and essentials.Though a spot in the inetrim of the journey seemed to boast of its supernatural,haunted nature,we curbed our adventerous spirit for now and took a different route instead of venturing into this so called haunted highway.Highways are famous for that anyway,spilled trucks and weird crying noises,we didnt stop to look but continued our journey without delving into such curiocity.
We then reached this resort.So cosy and warm unlike the snoberry of swish hotels.We did feel so close to nature and our primitive self that was so untouched by vanity.We started to see the real beauty inside and outside all the more.For a moment what we have to deal with on a day-today basis,the pressure to stay ahead of competition esp in our fields seemed to have placated at this very junction.We were more welcoming what we had to experience.
Language was a barrier since we both were North Indians only able to speak toota-phoota telugu but very good english.So we decided to communicate in that language.We were aware before hand about the do’s and don’ts of this place so half battle was won.We did manage to communicate in English with above average success.On the day of arrival we decided to take a day off and cool off a bit.Eat authentic kerala cuisine,walk around and take pictures and of course pour our hearts out chatting up!
Next two days were action-packed!We were at the Kovalam beach kayaking,surfing,skiing and of course sun bathing.Patches of coral reef and so close to the nature in this watery ride was just what the doctor ordered for a tropical summer.We usually returned to our resort around 6.00pm in the evenings,watching the famous kathakali performances in colourful masks and garbs.We felt so close to our Indian culture and proud at the same time musing the variety of folk dances,music and natural beauty we got.Like paradise was created on this very land.The quiet and secluded blue waters of kovalam beach and line of coconut trees.We learned that Kovalam means a groove of coconut trees.Our evenings would end checking out the jewellery and cloth shops spread across the waterfront and good food.
The next morning was our favourite thing to do!Oil baths,massages,meditation and yoga!yayie!We learned some good details about herbs which are available locally and we could use it for our well being.We also learnt some techniques from experts in yoga that could be practices anytime we were feeling out of sorts.
We ended our week long stay visiting the southern most lighthouse beach and enjoyed the lush greenery taking a backwater cruise.When we were back and started packing we took a little time to reminsce the good times close to nature,people,earth and our culture and felt so enriched like it make our aura stronger making us feel so very good about ourselves and satisfied with our journey and the awesome memories we would keep referring atleast till we make yet another exotic ,fun and meaningful journey!
Why does everybody want to be classy?What exactly is classiness?Not using expletives but also being very very artificial,evil-minded and unscrupulous inside your mind and soul but not exhibiting it on the outside.Is that classiness?Esp bhenjis who are so frustrated inside that they know that they can neither compete with the naturally_uber category of people and they are so envious and green-eyed monsters but also have sophist tendency so they pass on this veil they are wearing for decency.Their classiness doesnt come into picture when they create fights among people?,stealthly try to destroy someone’s property,belongings and reputation by twisting truth to their advantage?When they do all this,they are projecting decency and ‘Classiness’ ,right?This attitude and behaviour is so prevalent that a few people think the only way to achieve something is through manipulation and not realizing and using one’s potential fully.They have such sadistic nature but outwardly they are so honey-dew sweet,unless and until you closely obeserve them,you will not understand why does a person feels compelled to be overtly-abnormally-covertly sweet on the outside.No matter how loudly they make a propaganda of their concerned and sweet nature on the inside they are fighting for dominance.Covert_passively_aggressive people.Just very harmful for the well being of the society.
Even in reality tele and show,the item_girl also feels compelled to show she has class.But what the F*** is this class anyway?and why do you want it,cant you just be real?Unless you have the desire to join a beauty paegent why do you need to bestow this ‘Classiness’ upon yourself?
Everybody is pretty raw with animal instinct beneath deep layers so why cant they just be real and straight forward and honest instead of going to great lengths to create a dramatic effect of their supeficial decency and classiness.I say,i’d give two hoots to whatever it is these people are struggling internally to prove instead of being plain honest and real!
After reading,ideating and observing the furore and epidemic called ‘Marriage’ this country is suffering from,I’m coming to think about certain ‘Real’ aspects of relations coz there’s two sides of every coin.
Case Type_1:Our Older Generation:Why did marriage seem more successful and stable in those days? Wasn’t there any sign of domestic violence,emotional,psychological abuse in those times?Why were women so frigging obedient and docile without a spine just to save their marriages?Where all of them ideal,filled with true love and compassion?I don’t think so!Everytime when the yesteryear generations quotes people of my generations ‘Words of Wisdom,’ I smirk and raise my eyebrow.Just coz not everybody in those times was as ambitious as todays generation is,it probably helped the power-play and subduing the female counter-part save the marriage.Then living in that world of illusion they think they can pass on the same illogical,inhumane(for most part) dissembled truth in the veil of wisdom.No denying there will always be loads of exceptions but if one is to look at the majority and the life of a common man,i’d say the female population has had a lot to deal with esp when nuclear family was not a commonality in those days.Not only did she have to bear the brunt of her own immediate family but also the wholesome in-laws and their distant relatives.People struggled through menial jobs and did them without giving any excuses to provide for their families.Its rare today to see anybody stick to a job in a company for more than 5 years and those were our predecessors working for the same organization/institution for like 30-35 years..can we ever be that?i don’t think so;And the comparison with regard to aspirations,work culture,life style and personal expectations from an individual life is vastly different now.We cannot compare anything in the present with past as we are evolving every which way engulfing the positive as well as negative impact.So what traditions say and how you deal with family issues has turned a new leaf.Dynamics have changed.People are not attached to each other as a family as they used to in olden times as they depict in Karan Johar movies.Also it is foolish to expect. Dowry scene pretty prevalent back then too but the ugliness suffered in silence.How good is that?
There are lot of families which stayed united in those time i.e the unity amongst the brothers,sisters and parents was so strong that they forgave each others shortcomings no matter how complex and insane.There was no jealousy or planning and plotting and manipulative games amongst them.There was love and in times of need they helped each other without being asked.This is one of the best traits of our older generation that I have observed for most part.They didn’t allow their wives to soil their relationships with their siblings or parents.As a result she’d start to respect the unity and held the family together or at least tried to be a part of it even if she had the tendency to manipulate and create differences.The bond among the brothers,sisters and family was so strong that such behavioral traits got diluted in front of the faith and strength of love and she too catered to the togetherness of the family.This might be a very small example of how unity amongst family members had subdued the plotting of a quarrelsome,hostile new entrant!But then those were golden days in terms of a few classic,untouched examples that we could ideate upon!
Case Type_2:Now times have changed.So have our demands,aspirations and thinking.The next generation,i.e the generation of our elder brothers and sisters did come along with rather drastic changes.Going abroad and getting settled there seemed to catch up amongst them like a bequested virus!and this was the 90′s when going abroad was a very big deal and treated like some kind of valuable achievement.A foreign returned ullu-da-pattha would have a shower of newly found snobbery and vanity which his/her otherwise life when he was in his Janambhumi was pretty non-existent and unborn.Now when he has to return to his country for a short time to get married,he has a new list of demands or parameters of how the desirable bride should be!Now he wants someone who is not only educated but also modern as compared to his initial expectation of a balaji_telefilms_depiction_of_a_bahu.Someone who can speak good English and someone slim who he can showoff to his firangi boss,friends and colleagues.That aspect becomes so paramount that desire to have someone with good qualities becomes a backbencher in the school of marriage!We all are aware and have read horrid stories that have resulted of such marriages!Yet the person is still close to the families and these demands are also being accompanied with being a supportive partner.Like friends with benefits these where the class of people who had material demands but also fulfilled their marriage responsibilities.Good and worst examples exist even during this phase and not to be ignored but for most part marriage in 90′s hasn’t been a hassle as it is now!
Case Type_3: Then came the y2k bug and not only did it hit the computers among the world but also the y2k generation which is the adult generation since year 2k.Women’s liberation found to be easily accessible to a point where a few over-smart women found loop-holes to take undue advantage of such laws and liberation to protect women.Divorce since then has become a common place esp in metropolitan cities in India.Divorce equates to a tight slap on what our Indian culture takes pride and is famous all over the world-Marriage and family!
Women are educated,aware of their rights for most part.There are cases I’ve heard where people have divorced each other based on silly vanity and stupid ego-trips!In terms of relationship i can easily quote that though we seem to be educated enough to know our rights at the same time there a few or even more than a few who exploit their rights in the desire of power play.These females,just coz they have jobs and are on their own feel entitled to dominate everyone in the family and feel that it is their right to demand such obedience from their in-laws just coz she feels a little liberation and the need to show-off her vanity.Lacks compassion and is manipulative to the point where she threatens her husband for a divorce everytime there’s some little issue-like its my way of highway type of deal.Mostly families are nuclear these days and the girl doesnt have the hassle of taking care of her in-laws but at every given occassion will display condescending behaviour as if to threaten and alarm people even in the most non-chalant situations.Like a snake hisses at people when just pass nearby without any intention to harm.It raises its hood coz it is insecure and expects that people pass by only to kill it,it raises its hood!The same way a few women have such expectations inspire of having good childhood,good loving parents;they just want to dominate!That is a sad plight coz they will unnecessarily create rift amongst family members and rejoice the outcome.Not only that coz internet and media is open to one and all they will use this medium or anything in their scope to indirectly bring to notice and create deliberate situations in the name of rights(Few reality based shows on colors channel,etc where a girl was dragged into the show saying she doesnt care for her mother,etc) .These kind of people lack compassion.If somebody is suffering in the family not only will they ignore them but mock their misery and go about their business.If their immediate family needs attention they will ignore all that and be more concerned about touring to different places and selfishly thinking about themselves only!When other people are present they make it a point to display their deep concern(read superficial) but the audience has to be present,only then such drama and play will be witness not in real times!Being rude to family members and crying out loud when people retaliate to such rudeness thinking law is foolish and everybody is stupid to give in to their whims and fancies they go about such behaviors!Why do they say only men are bad and do atrocious things?There are a certain women who are hell-bent on destroying families just coz they are financially independent!They feel they have the power to go overboard.This is the real plight apart from the heinous dowry and domestic violence people are facing.There’s an other side of the coin too,why do people ignore that when it is very much existent and lot of people suffer the consequences of having a badly-behaved-selfish-greedy-unscrupulous bahu!
Men and women are both equally responsible for success and failure of a marriage.Why blame the either gender alone.If the female is not assertive in spite of being educated,if education and awareness has not given her strength to put her foot down even god cannot help such a mental handicapping!On the other side when the female is too domineering to a point where she emasculates her husband and creates havoc and differences amongst his own family-brothers and sisters-parents due to her insecurity thinking her husband should only think and care for her and nobody else;such behavior also should be corrected.It is up to the male person to stop being so spineless and take a stand and create a balance.Its upto him to realize the location of his back-bone and do something about it.
In marriage its both male and female that can create balance and harmony.Requires effort and clarity in thinking and knowledge of self-worth and reasonable pragmatism.Poor self-esteem is never healthy in personal and professional life.Even life-partner will take undue advantage of such a poor-self esteem,neurotic person.Keeping mind and emotions healthy is vital for personal and professional success!!All this if you donot want your marriage to look like a cartoon-cartoon show!!
“The public have an instatiable curiosity to know everything,except what is worth knowing”-Oscar Wilde.
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